mental health

The Power of Setting Boundaries for Better Mental Health

 

If you’ve ever said “yes” when you wanted to say “no,” you’re not alone. Many people struggle with setting healthy boundaries—whether it’s at work, with family, or in relationships. As a psychotherapist, I see how often the absence of clear boundaries leads to stress, burnout, and resentment. The good news? Boundaries are a skill you can learn, and practicing them can profoundly improve your mental health and overall well-being.

What Are Healthy Boundaries?

Boundaries are the invisible lines we draw to protect our time, energy, and emotional health. They define what we are—and aren’t—comfortable with, and they help others understand how to treat us. Think of boundaries as a form of self-care: they aren’t walls that keep people out, but guideposts that help you maintain balance and respect in your relationships.

Why Boundaries Matter for Mental Health

When you don’t set boundaries, you may find yourself feeling:

  • Overwhelmed and exhausted
  • Irritable or resentful
  • Disconnected from your own needs
  • Pulled in too many directions

On the other hand, people who practice healthy boundaries often experience:

  • Less stress and burnout
  • Stronger, more respectful relationships
  • Greater confidence and self-worth
  • More time and energy for the things that matter most

Boundaries are not selfish—they are essential to protecting your emotional well-being.

How to Start Setting Boundaries

Here are some practical strategies you can try:

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Tune Into Your Feelings

Notice when you feel uncomfortable, drained, or resentful. These emotions are signals that your boundaries may be crossed.

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Start Small

If setting boundaries feels overwhelming, begin with small changes. For example, commit to not answering work emails after dinner, or say “I’ll need to check my schedule and get back to you” instead of agreeing immediately.

3. 

Communicate Clearly and Kindly

Use simple, respectful language. For example: “I appreciate the invitation, but I need some downtime tonight.”

4. 

Expect Some Pushback

Not everyone will respond positively when you start setting new limits. That’s okay. Stand firm, and remind yourself why the boundary is important for your well-being.

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Practice Self-Compassion

It’s normal to feel guilty or uncomfortable at first. Remember: you’re not being unkind—you’re taking care of yourself.

Therapy Can Help

Sometimes, boundaries are hard to set because of past experiences, people-pleasing tendencies, or fear of conflict. Therapy can provide tools and support to help you navigate these challenges. With guidance, you can learn to communicate more confidently, release guilt, and create relationships that feel healthier and more fulfilling.

Final Thoughts

Boundaries are an act of self-respect. By setting them, you create more space for peace, joy, and balance in your life. If you’re struggling to put boundaries into practice, therapy can help you build the confidence and skills you need.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D

Why Taking Care of Your Mental Health Is Just as Important as Your Physical Health

 

When people think about health, they often focus on eating well, exercising, and getting enough sleep. While those are essential, there’s another piece of the puzzle that’s just as important—but often overlooked: mental health. As a psychotherapist, I’ve seen firsthand how caring for your emotional well-being can transform not only your mood, but also your relationships, physical health, and overall quality of life.

In this post, I’ll share why mental health matters so deeply, the signs that you might need extra support, and practical steps you can take today to nurture your emotional wellness.

Why Mental Health Matters

Your mind and body are deeply connected. Stress, anxiety, and unresolved emotions don’t just stay in your head—they often show up in your body. You might notice this as headaches, muscle tension, digestive issues, or even fatigue. On the flip side, when you feel emotionally balanced, you often sleep better, make healthier choices, and feel more resilient in the face of challenges.

Prioritizing mental health isn’t a luxury—it’s an essential part of total wellness. Just as you wouldn’t ignore a persistent cough or back pain, your emotional struggles also deserve care and attention.

Signs You May Need to Pause and Care for Your Mental Health

Sometimes, we’re so busy pushing through daily life that we miss the signs that our emotional health is asking for help. Here are a few common ones:

  • Feeling persistently overwhelmed or anxious
  • Irritability or mood swings that feel hard to control
  • Difficulty sleeping—either too much or too little
  • Loss of interest in activities you used to enjoy
  • Pulling away from friends, family, or social situations
  • Changes in appetite or energy that don’t have a clear cause

If any of these sound familiar, you’re not alone. These are signs that your mind and body are signaling for rest, compassion, and possibly professional support.

Practical Ways to Support Your Mental Health

While everyone’s journey is unique, there are proven strategies that can help strengthen your emotional well-being. Here are a few you can try:

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Practice Mindful Breathing

Even a few minutes of deep, intentional breathing can calm the nervous system. Try pausing during your day to take five slow breaths, focusing only on the inhale and exhale.

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Move Your Body

Exercise doesn’t have to mean running marathons. A short walk, gentle yoga, or even stretching at your desk can release endorphins and ease stress.

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Connect with Others

Human beings are wired for connection. Talking with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist can lighten the emotional load and remind you that you don’t have to carry everything alone.

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Set Healthy Boundaries

It’s okay to say “no.” Protecting your time and energy is a form of self-respect and a vital part of mental wellness.

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Seek Professional Support

Sometimes, the most powerful step you can take is reaching out for professional help. Therapy provides a safe, non-judgmental space to process emotions, build coping strategies, and rediscover your strengths.

Breaking the Stigma

One of the most common barriers I see is the belief that seeking therapy means you’re “weak” or “can’t handle life.” In reality, the opposite is true. Choosing to care for your mental health is an act of courage and strength. It means you value yourself enough to invest in your well-being.

Think of it this way: if your car’s check engine light comes on, you don’t ignore it—you take it in for maintenance so it can keep running smoothly. Therapy works the same way. It helps you address issues before they become bigger challenges.

Final Thoughts

Mental health is health. By giving your emotional well-being the same attention you give your physical health, you create a foundation for a fuller, healthier, and more balanced life. Whether it’s small daily practices or reaching out for professional support, every step you take toward nurturing your mind matters.

If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or simply curious about how therapy might help, I encourage you to reach out. Sometimes, the hardest part is taking that first step—but it can also be the most transformative.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D

Holistically Aligning Yourself for Better Mental Health

 

In a world that often feels fast-paced and chaotic, taking care of our mental health can sometimes feel like an afterthought. We focus on physical symptoms, juggling work, relationships, and responsibilities, but too often, we neglect the deep, underlying emotional and mental well-being that holds everything together. It’s easy to overlook how our thoughts, emotions, bodies, and environments are all deeply connected, but when we take a step back and choose to align ourselves holistically, we can begin to nurture and improve our mental health in a meaningful, lasting way.

1. Understand Your Emotional Landscape

The first step to holistic mental health is acknowledging where you are emotionally. Emotions can be tricky, often showing up unexpectedly or in ways we don’t fully understand. Instead of avoiding uncomfortable feelings or suppressing them, give yourself permission to feel. Emotions like sadness, anger, or anxiety are often viewed negatively, but they’re simply signals — messengers trying to tell us something. By understanding and processing your emotions, you not only release internal tension, but you also allow yourself the space to heal.

A great way to get in tune with your emotions is through journaling. Writing helps externalize what’s going on inside and gives you clarity. Try free-writing for five or ten minutes a day, and see what patterns arise in your thoughts and feelings. It’s a practice that can unlock deeper self-awareness.

2. Mindfulness and Meditation

Mindfulness, at its core, is the practice of being fully present in the moment — no judgment, no distractions. It’s about observing your thoughts without attachment or resistance. In our busy lives, we often spend more time thinking about the future or ruminating on the past than truly experiencing the present. But the present moment is where real peace resides.

Mindfulness can be practiced in many ways: through breathing exercises, meditation, or simply paying attention to what’s around you. Start with a few minutes a day of breathing deeply and focusing on your breath. Allow thoughts to come and go without clinging to them. Gradually, you’ll find that mindfulness begins to permeate your everyday life, reducing stress, calming anxiety, and bringing clarity to your mental space.

3. Physical Health: The Body-Mind Connection

It’s hard to ignore the connection between physical health and mental health. How you feel physically directly impacts how you feel mentally. Exercise, for example, releases endorphins — your body’s natural mood boosters. It doesn’t matter what kind of exercise it is; whether it’s a walk in the park, yoga, or lifting weights, moving your body regularly helps regulate stress levels, boost your energy, and improve sleep.

If you’re dealing with mental health challenges, it’s important to also focus on what’s fueling your body. A balanced diet full of nourishing whole foods provides the energy and nutrients your brain needs to function at its best. Avoiding heavy processed foods and focusing on fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and healthy fats will set the stage for mental clarity.

Additionally, sleep cannot be overstated. It’s the cornerstone of good mental health. Inadequate sleep affects your mood, cognitive function, and emotional regulation. Prioritize sleep, aiming for 7-9 hours per night, and practice good sleep hygiene by avoiding screens before bed and creating a calming bedtime routine.

4. Cultivating Meaningful Relationships

Humans are social creatures, and our connections with others have a profound impact on our mental health. Relationships can bring joy, support, and validation, but they can also create stress and tension. Holistically aligning yourself means nurturing relationships that are positive and fulfilling, while setting healthy boundaries in those that drain or harm you.

Spending time with people who understand, listen, and care about you is invaluable. Surround yourself with those who encourage your growth and bring out the best in you. Don’t forget that being open and vulnerable with trusted friends or family is a powerful act of self-care — talking about your struggles can lighten the emotional load.

On the flip side, it’s essential to recognize when a relationship is unhealthy and take steps to protect your peace. Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you don’t care, but rather that you value yourself and your mental well-being enough to avoid toxic dynamics.

5. Find Your Purpose and Passion

Having something in your life that excites you, gives you direction, and makes you feel fulfilled is key to maintaining good mental health. Whether it’s a creative pursuit, a hobby, a career, or a cause you’re passionate about, finding something that brings you joy and purpose will anchor you when life gets overwhelming. Purpose acts as a guiding force, giving you something to look forward to and helping you stay grounded.

If you’re not sure what your passions are, try new things. Volunteer, take up a new hobby, or learn something you’ve always wanted to try. Often, it’s the exploration of what lights us up that leads to new, fulfilling paths.

6. Acknowledge Your Limits and Practice Self-Compassion

Finally, it’s important to remember that alignment doesn’t mean perfection. We all have our bad days. We all have moments of weakness. But how we treat ourselves during those moments matters. Be compassionate with yourself. Recognize your limitations, and don’t push yourself too hard. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough.

Sometimes, holistic alignment involves slowing down, taking breaks, and acknowledging that mental health is a journey — one that’s not linear. Be patient with yourself, and take it one day at a time.

In Conclusion

Holistic mental health isn’t about fixing or changing who you are. It’s about tuning in to the different aspects of yourself — your emotions, your physical body, your relationships, your passions — and learning how to nurture and care for them in harmony. By doing so, you’ll cultivate a sense of balance and alignment that will support you in weathering life’s ups and downs with greater resilience, peace, and well-being.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D

Disney therapist mom here ☀️

 

 

A black and white image of the word justice.Yep, Disney mom proud and all pure love of everything Disney.

It’s interesting, often people will ask me as a therapist what do you get out of Disney? What’s the mental health piece? As I often refer to Disney as my very expensive self-care.

Truth is Disney brings me back to basic. Disney reminds of the simple joys that as we grow older we tend to miss, forget, or no longer notice.

Disney elicits the essence of mindfulness to see the child’s great big smile when in awe of the park. Or to notice the connection of families. The happiness individuals feel and it rays like sunshine on a warm day simply walking through the park.

Disney reminds me that life is complicated and sure this is accurate, yes, of course, but there’s also so much joy. So much pure, authentic joy and happiness, absolutely incredible.

Disney reminds me of when I was a child and the happiness that I felt every second in the park with my parents. Embracing my inner child gives me the opportunity to connect with some of the deepest layers of myself while at Disney.

Disney allows me to grow, to evolve. There’s so much knowledge in Disney. So much to learn, and that opportunity I take every single time.

Disney allows me to practice mindfulness, to be present in the experience and enjoy the seconds vs. planning for the next.

Disney provides me awe moments, you know the moments that take your breath away? The moments that make me feel alive, vibrant, and connected to others and something bigger.

Disney may not be everyone’s favorite place in the world, but it’s mine.

So this Disney therapist mom wanted to share for just a moment the joy that Disney brings to me and my mental health. Feeling truly grateful.

Love, sincerely the Disney therapist mama â¤ï¸

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D

10 ways to live a more fulfilling healthier and happy life today:


So we all want to live a healthy and happy life right? Sometimes we don’t feel fulfilled in the everyday routine. We get stuck in the autopilot of it all. It gets exhausting, maybe even draining.

Let’s talk about 10 simple ways you can begin to implement today to live a more fulfilling healthier and happier life today.

  1. Practice gratitude

Choose each day to show up with a grateful heart. Even for the small things in your life, food you eat, roof over your head. This can all adjust the way you see and feel about your life and world.

  1. Choose to smile

There’s a ton of research that shows smiling helps us internally as well as externally. It helps us feel lighter and more at ease, plus it costs nothing. Try it out today.

  1. Mindfulness

Living a mindful life allows one to be present in all of your feelings and experiences, the more present we are the more regulated we become.

  1. Say no

Say no to people, places and things that don’t align to what truly makes your soul happy.

  1. Practice Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are essential. They are a perfect example of self- care. The healthier boundaries we choose the happier life we live.

  1. Exercise

Get moving, exercise increases endorphins that help us feel good. Get moving today.

  1. Surround yourself with people that love and truly care about you

When you surround yourself with a healthy team, you yourself begin to make healthier choices for you.

  1. Live for your moments

The moments that take your breathe away. Live and be those moments.

Manage Stress

Be conscious and aware of your stress. If it gets too high it’s time to implement something different.

  1. Choose goals that are realistic

Set goals that are realistic and achievable. Be kind to yourself. Choose compassion.

So today is your day, your day to begin living a happier and healthier life. Which of the 10 will you start to incorporate in your life? New Day Vitality is here to help.

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D