Just for today

Daily mediations

A form of daily mediations is starting each morning off with a just for today statement.
Focus on today and the task of the day, not the lifetime. Here’s some just for todays to start to use every morning.
Just for today I will focus on mindfulness
Just for today I will be happy
Just for today I will adjust myself to what I need
Just for today I will give myself the patience I deserve
Just for today I will share my growth and love with those who show me there’s
Just for today I will take time for me, alone and relax
 Just for today I will shift my perspective to what aligns with my needs
Just for today I will be unafraid.
Just for todays stem from AA 12 step programs. They can be used in many different forms and spaces. If just for todays are fitting for setting your intentions for the day, I encourage you to come up with some of your own and begin to practice daily.
Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella

Tips on getting through the holidays when it feels like to much

So the holidays are coming up, how exciting?
But also stressful and to some not exciting at all.
The holidays can elicit a range of emotions for many, even weeks leading up.

Most importantly for holiday stress:

Honor your feelings and practice self-love, kindness, boundaries and patience with you self. This sounds simple but can be extremely hard.
Here we have come up with some helpful mantras to help lower holiday stress:
Use the ones you feel drawn to
I will practice kindness
I will be patient with myself, friends and family
I will practice healthy boundaries
I will say no when I need to
I will let go of my expectations specially the very high ones
I will remember the meaning of the holiday, release society standards
I will show love to myself and those around me
I will take it one moment at a time
If I need space if I need distance I will honor that
I will be kind to myself each second of the day
I give myself permission to slow down when I need it
I will practice mindfulness
I will practice self love
We are all connected in this universe
I miss love ones and I will honor that
I will practice gratitude
I will honor my budget
If I need a boundary between family and friends I will practice it
I will give myself the gift of kindness today
Also check out these awesome mantras for holidays stress from https://www.tiffanynapper.com/blog/15-holiday-mantras


1. I have control over how I feel, and I choose to feel at peace.

2. I give myself permission to let go of what no longer serves me.

3. It will get done.



4. I can make space for loneliness and practice being kind to myself.

5. We are all connected after all.

6. Loneliness will always pass.



7. I will always have enough.

8. Gratitude awakens the good in my life.

9. I give and receive with grace.



10.  I open my heart and accept others as they are.

11.  Stay present. Get grounded. I have nothing but love to give.

12. I choose uplifting encounters, and I have the power to remove myself from negative situations.



13.  I am deserving and worthy of all good things.

14.  I treat myself with love and respect.

15.  I give myself permission to prioritize the things that bring me joy, creativity, and connection.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella

Letting go

Let’s talk about letting go of a love one when a relationship ends. There’s no doubt that the end of a relationship is extremely painful. Break ups suck. There not fun, nor comfortable, even when your the one ending the relationship. Most of the time during or after a break up, individuals ask the question, how do I let go? It’s a tough one.

How do you let go after a long term relationship with a significant other?

Here’s some ways and helpful tips to start today:
Hold onto your boundaries firmly
Know you’re self-worth
Reconnect to other parts and people in your life
Disconnect from social media
Delete phone numbers and contact information of the person from your phone
Remind yourself why it didn’t work out
Create a positive mantra to counter the painful thoughts
Practice mindfulness
Do your own work on you
Be kind to yourself
Ask for help
Ask for support
Join a support group
Allow negative emotions to flow
Practice self- care
Discover the lesson
Elicit separation
Focus on you
Focus on empowering you
Focus on self acceptance
Start small
Keep a journal
Be patient with yourself
Look forward
Let yourself grieve
Prepare for life after the break up
Recognize it’s time
Stop the blame game
Practice forgiveness
Master your emotions
Practice empathy
Learn to let go and move on
“The key to letting go of someone you love is facing what has happened, accepting that you can’t change it and then moving on. Once you’re able to move on and appreciate the growth that came from the relationship, better opportunities will present themselves. You will have successfully learned how to let go of someone you love and can begin writing your new story.” – Team Tony
Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella

Spiritual Love

For those who know and follow me; also know that I’m very spiritual and practice from a holistic background. Felt the pull to share this post of some of my favorite quotes on spirituality with my tribe this week.
Enjoy below friends
Enlighten your soul
“In order to save myself, I must destroy first the me I was told to be.”

-The Dreamer.


“When we awaken to our truth, we realize we are free.”

-Kristi Bowman.


“Awakening is not changing who you are but discarding who you are not.”

-Deepak Chopra.


“If every day is an awakening, you will never grow old. You will just keep growing.”

-Gail Sheehy.


“I think a spiritual journey is not so much a journey of discovery. It’s a journey of recovery. It’s a journey of uncovering your own inner nature. It’s already there.”

-Billy Corgan.


“The more peaceful your mind is, the easier it is to realize what spirituality is.”

-Remez Sasson.


“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”

-E. Cummings.


“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the now the primary focus of your life.”

-Eckhart Tolle.


“You must understand the whole of life, not just one little part of it.”

-Jiddu Krishnamurti.


“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”



“Our biological rhythms are the symphony of the cosmos, music embedded deep within us to which we dance, even when we can’t name the tune.”

-Deepak Chopra.


“Through your awakening, you awaken others.”

-Solara An Ra.


“You are a light that cannot darken. You are a soul that shines through. You are eternal amid the moment. You are awakening. You are love.”

-Craig Crippen.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella

I’m proud of you

I wanna take moment to acknowledge all those who fight battles each and everyday that no one has any idea about. I want to acknowledge how hard you fight to show up. I want to acknowledge all the work you put into yourself and those around you. I want to acknowledge that your inspiring.

I’m proud of you.

Proud that your trying.
Proud that your working.
Proud that your smiling.
Proud that your crying.
Proud that your evolving.
Proud that your authentic.
Proud that your loving.
Proud that your real.
Proud that your showing kindness.
Proud that your loved.
Proud that your you.
Proud that your showing up.
So on the hard days please note that I see you. I admire you. I stand beside you.
To all those showing up even on the hardest days, your a true warrior.
Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella