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Nov

2022

Tips on getting through the holidays when it feels like to much

So the holidays are coming up, how exciting?

But also stressful and to some not exciting at all.

The holidays can elicit a range of emotions for many, even weeks leading up.

Most importantly for holiday stress:

Honor your feelings and practice self-love, kindness, boundaries and patience with you self. This sounds simple but can be extremely hard.

Here we have come up with some helpful mantras to help lower holiday stress:

Use the ones you feel drawn to

I will practice kindness

I will be patient with myself, friends and family

I will practice healthy boundaries

I will say no when I need to

I will let go of my expectations specially the very high ones

I will remember the meaning of the holiday, release society standards

I will show love to myself and those around me

I will take it one moment at a time

If I need space if I need distance I will honor that

I will be kind to myself each second of the day

I give myself permission to slow down when I need it

I will practice mindfulness

I will practice self love

We are all connected in this universe

I miss love ones and I will honor that

I will practice gratitude

I will honor my budget

If I need a boundary between family and friends I will practice it

I will give myself the gift of kindness today

Also check out these awesome mantras for holidays stress from https://www.tiffanynapper.com/blog/15-holiday-mantras

WHEN YOU ARE OVERWHELMED:

1. I have control over how I feel, and I choose to feel at peace.

2. I give myself permission to let go of what no longer serves me.

3. It will get done.

WHEN YOU ARE LONELY:

4. I can make space for loneliness and practice being kind to myself.

5. We are all connected after all.

6. Loneliness will always pass.

WHEN MONEY IS TIGHT:

7. I will always have enough.

8. Gratitude awakens the good in my life.

9. I give and receive with grace.

WHEN YOUR FAMILY STRESSES YOU OUT:

10. I open my heart and accept others as they are.

11. Stay present. Get grounded. I have nothing but love to give.

12. I choose uplifting encounters, and I have the power to remove myself from negative situations.

WHEN YOU ARE DOWN ON YOURSELF:

13. I am deserving and worthy of all good things.

14. I treat myself with love and respect.

15. I give myself permission to prioritize the things that bring me joy, creativity, and connection.

Nov

2022

Letting go

Let’s talk about letting go of a love one when a relationship ends. There’s no doubt that the end of a relationship is extremely painful. Break ups suck. There not fun, nor comfortable, even when your the one ending the relationship. Most of the time during or after a break up, individuals ask the question, how do I let go? It’s a tough one.

How do you let go after a long term relationship with a significant other?

Here’s some ways and helpful tips to start today:

Hold onto your boundaries firmly

Know you’re self-worth

Reconnect to other parts and people in your life

Disconnect from social media

Delete phone numbers and contact information of the person from your phone

Remind yourself why it didn’t work out

Create a positive mantra to counter the painful thoughts

Practice mindfulness

Do your own work on you

Be kind to yourself

Ask for help

Ask for support

Join a support group

Allow negative emotions to flow

Practice self- care

Discover the lesson

Elicit separation

Focus on you

Focus on empowering you

Focus on self acceptance

Start small

Keep a journal

Mediate

Be patient with yourself

Look forward

Let yourself grieve

Prepare for life after the break up

Recognize it’s time

Stop the blame game

Practice forgiveness

Master your emotions

Practice empathy

Learn to let go and move on

“The key to letting go of someone you love is facing what has happened, accepting that you can’t change it and then moving on. Once you’re able to move on and appreciate the growth that came from the relationship, better opportunities will present themselves. You will have successfully learned how to let go of someone you love and can begin writing your new story.” – Team Tony

https://youtu.be/79kpoGF8KWU

Nov

2022

Spiritual Love

For those who know and follow me; also know that I’m very spiritual and practice from a holistic background. Felt the pull to share this post of some of my favorite quotes on spirituality with my tribe this week.

Enjoy below friends

Enlighten your soul

“In order to save myself, I must destroy first the me I was told to be.”

-The Dreamer.

“When we awaken to our truth, we realize we are free.”

-Kristi Bowman.

“Awakening is not changing who you are but discarding who you are not.”

-Deepak Chopra.

“If every day is an awakening, you will never grow old. You will just keep growing.”

-Gail Sheehy.

“I think a spiritual journey is not so much a journey of discovery. It’s a journey of recovery. It’s a journey of uncovering your own inner nature. It’s already there.”

-Billy Corgan.

“The more peaceful your mind is, the easier it is to realize what spirituality is.”

-Remez Sasson.

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”

-E. Cummings.

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the now the primary focus of your life.”

-Eckhart Tolle.

“You must understand the whole of life, not just one little part of it.”

-Jiddu Krishnamurti.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

-Rumi.

“Our biological rhythms are the symphony of the cosmos, music embedded deep within us to which we dance, even when we can’t name the tune.”

-Deepak Chopra.

“Through your awakening, you awaken others.”

-Solara An Ra.

“You are a light that cannot darken. You are a soul that shines through. You are eternal amid the moment. You are awakening. You are love.”

-Craig Crippen.

https://youtu.be/hN-RsF17_Mk

Oct

2022

I’m proud of you

I wanna take moment to acknowledge all those who fight battles each and everyday that no one has any idea about. I want to acknowledge how hard you fight to show up. I want to acknowledge all the work you put into yourself and those around you. I want to acknowledge that your inspiring.

I’m proud of you.

Proud that your trying.

Proud that your working.

Proud that your smiling.

Proud that your crying.

Proud that your evolving.

Proud that your authentic.

Proud that your loving.

Proud that your real.

Proud that your showing kindness.

Proud that your loved.

Proud that your you.

Proud that your showing up.

So on the hard days please note that I see you. I admire you. I stand beside you.

To all those showing up even on the hardest days, your a true warrior.

https://youtu.be/hN-RsF17_Mk

Oct

2022

Healthy boundaries

Boundaries boundaries boundaries

Boundaries can be hard, sometimes even feel impossible but they are essential for our mental health, in fact they are normal. Here’s some awesome statements you can use to enforce or elicit a healthy boundary when needed and find it difficult to enforce.

I appreciate hearing your opinion, but I’m not willing to change my mind on this.
Can you explain your thoughts on this?
That has not been my experience.
I’m interested by what you’re saying, though I’m not sure how it would work.
I would like it if we could just agree to disagree.

I’m putting my needs first and you won’t make me feel guilty.
I don’t feel like I have a chance to voice my opinion here.
I feel like I shut down when you take over the conversation.
That may have been the case in your situation. But in this situation, mine is different.
I understand why you think that might work. But here’s why it won’t for me.
I hear how you feel. But now it’s time to talk about how I feel.
I feel uncomfortable when you bring this up in front of everyone. Next time, please just talk to me about it when we are alone.

I’m an adult and capable of making my own decisions
My reasons are personal, and I don’t have to explain them to you or anyone else.
I have my reasons and I don’t have to explain them.
I do not have to explain myself to you or anyone else, ever.
I prefer not to say or answer.
I’m confident in my decision.
I won’t allow you to use guilt to control or change my mind. I have made my decision.
My feelings are as equally important as yours, they matter.

Most importantly for holiday stress:

WHEN YOU ARE OVERWHELMED:

WHEN YOU ARE LONELY:

WHEN MONEY IS TIGHT:

WHEN YOUR FAMILY STRESSES YOU OUT:

WHEN YOU ARE DOWN ON YOURSELF:

How do you let go after a long term relationship with a significant other?

I’m proud of you.

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