Heartbreak (and what you need to know after a break up)


This is all you need to know after a break up:

Breakups are difficult and can be extremely emotional roller coasters. It’s essential after a break up to take care of you, self-care is so important, so take the time to be good and kind to yourself.

This is a new chapter of your life, and taking the steps to let go of your past and that relationship is the first step. It’s still going to be painful and it’s going to take time, but remember time heals all wounds. So start this new chapter for yourself. Remember we don’t have control of the outside world, but we can control are reactions and responses, so take this time to focus on yourself and your well being. Breathe in, breathe out, surround yourself with great friends and family and begin the process of your new chapter.

No blame, challenge those negative thoughts. You might begin to blame yourself or partner for the break up, either way this leads to negative self talk and brings you to a dark place, so change it up. Focus on you, your accomplishments, your amazing traits and what makes you so very special. At first this may be hard; but positive self-talk is essential towards this recovery after the break up.

You are the star of your life, the star of your show, and make it the story you want to read, and more importantly you want to live. Be easy on yourself, take it slow and this to shall pass.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella

3 Tips for Strengthening Your Marriage


How can we reconnect and strengthen your marriage?

Below are my three tips on ways to strengthen your relationship with your significant other:

  1. Create couples rituals; whether it’s a date night, a check-in or having morning coffee together, rituals help to provide structure, which in hands creates security, and bonds that are essential for successful relationships.
  2. Disconnect from work, the phone, and others to spend some alone quality time together with your significant other. Setting limits to the amount of time spent on the phone or work can help lower and elevate stress levels and allows quality time to be spent solely with your significant other. So step away from the phone, shut it down and spend some time together where you can connect and feel the happiness that brought you two together originally.
  3. Do something fun, spontaneous and adventurous together. Step out of your comfort zone and have a new adventure or experience together. This helps to strengthen your bond while experiencing and enjoying something new together.


Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella