mental health

Holistically Aligning Yourself for Better Mental Health

 

In a world that often feels fast-paced and chaotic, taking care of our mental health can sometimes feel like an afterthought. We focus on physical symptoms, juggling work, relationships, and responsibilities, but too often, we neglect the deep, underlying emotional and mental well-being that holds everything together. It’s easy to overlook how our thoughts, emotions, bodies, and environments are all deeply connected, but when we take a step back and choose to align ourselves holistically, we can begin to nurture and improve our mental health in a meaningful, lasting way.

1. Understand Your Emotional Landscape

The first step to holistic mental health is acknowledging where you are emotionally. Emotions can be tricky, often showing up unexpectedly or in ways we don’t fully understand. Instead of avoiding uncomfortable feelings or suppressing them, give yourself permission to feel. Emotions like sadness, anger, or anxiety are often viewed negatively, but they’re simply signals — messengers trying to tell us something. By understanding and processing your emotions, you not only release internal tension, but you also allow yourself the space to heal.

A great way to get in tune with your emotions is through journaling. Writing helps externalize what’s going on inside and gives you clarity. Try free-writing for five or ten minutes a day, and see what patterns arise in your thoughts and feelings. It’s a practice that can unlock deeper self-awareness.

2. Mindfulness and Meditation

Mindfulness, at its core, is the practice of being fully present in the moment — no judgment, no distractions. It’s about observing your thoughts without attachment or resistance. In our busy lives, we often spend more time thinking about the future or ruminating on the past than truly experiencing the present. But the present moment is where real peace resides.

Mindfulness can be practiced in many ways: through breathing exercises, meditation, or simply paying attention to what’s around you. Start with a few minutes a day of breathing deeply and focusing on your breath. Allow thoughts to come and go without clinging to them. Gradually, you’ll find that mindfulness begins to permeate your everyday life, reducing stress, calming anxiety, and bringing clarity to your mental space.

3. Physical Health: The Body-Mind Connection

It’s hard to ignore the connection between physical health and mental health. How you feel physically directly impacts how you feel mentally. Exercise, for example, releases endorphins — your body’s natural mood boosters. It doesn’t matter what kind of exercise it is; whether it’s a walk in the park, yoga, or lifting weights, moving your body regularly helps regulate stress levels, boost your energy, and improve sleep.

If you’re dealing with mental health challenges, it’s important to also focus on what’s fueling your body. A balanced diet full of nourishing whole foods provides the energy and nutrients your brain needs to function at its best. Avoiding heavy processed foods and focusing on fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and healthy fats will set the stage for mental clarity.

Additionally, sleep cannot be overstated. It’s the cornerstone of good mental health. Inadequate sleep affects your mood, cognitive function, and emotional regulation. Prioritize sleep, aiming for 7-9 hours per night, and practice good sleep hygiene by avoiding screens before bed and creating a calming bedtime routine.

4. Cultivating Meaningful Relationships

Humans are social creatures, and our connections with others have a profound impact on our mental health. Relationships can bring joy, support, and validation, but they can also create stress and tension. Holistically aligning yourself means nurturing relationships that are positive and fulfilling, while setting healthy boundaries in those that drain or harm you.

Spending time with people who understand, listen, and care about you is invaluable. Surround yourself with those who encourage your growth and bring out the best in you. Don’t forget that being open and vulnerable with trusted friends or family is a powerful act of self-care — talking about your struggles can lighten the emotional load.

On the flip side, it’s essential to recognize when a relationship is unhealthy and take steps to protect your peace. Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you don’t care, but rather that you value yourself and your mental well-being enough to avoid toxic dynamics.

5. Find Your Purpose and Passion

Having something in your life that excites you, gives you direction, and makes you feel fulfilled is key to maintaining good mental health. Whether it’s a creative pursuit, a hobby, a career, or a cause you’re passionate about, finding something that brings you joy and purpose will anchor you when life gets overwhelming. Purpose acts as a guiding force, giving you something to look forward to and helping you stay grounded.

If you’re not sure what your passions are, try new things. Volunteer, take up a new hobby, or learn something you’ve always wanted to try. Often, it’s the exploration of what lights us up that leads to new, fulfilling paths.

6. Acknowledge Your Limits and Practice Self-Compassion

Finally, it’s important to remember that alignment doesn’t mean perfection. We all have our bad days. We all have moments of weakness. But how we treat ourselves during those moments matters. Be compassionate with yourself. Recognize your limitations, and don’t push yourself too hard. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough.

Sometimes, holistic alignment involves slowing down, taking breaks, and acknowledging that mental health is a journey — one that’s not linear. Be patient with yourself, and take it one day at a time.

In Conclusion

Holistic mental health isn’t about fixing or changing who you are. It’s about tuning in to the different aspects of yourself — your emotions, your physical body, your relationships, your passions — and learning how to nurture and care for them in harmony. By doing so, you’ll cultivate a sense of balance and alignment that will support you in weathering life’s ups and downs with greater resilience, peace, and well-being.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D

Disney therapist mom here ☀️

 

 

A black and white image of the word justice.Yep, Disney mom proud and all pure love of everything Disney.

It’s interesting, often people will ask me as a therapist what do you get out of Disney? What’s the mental health piece? As I often refer to Disney as my very expensive self-care.

Truth is Disney brings me back to basic. Disney reminds of the simple joys that as we grow older we tend to miss, forget, or no longer notice.

Disney elicits the essence of mindfulness to see the child’s great big smile when in awe of the park. Or to notice the connection of families. The happiness individuals feel and it rays like sunshine on a warm day simply walking through the park.

Disney reminds me that life is complicated and sure this is accurate, yes, of course, but there’s also so much joy. So much pure, authentic joy and happiness, absolutely incredible.

Disney reminds me of when I was a child and the happiness that I felt every second in the park with my parents. Embracing my inner child gives me the opportunity to connect with some of the deepest layers of myself while at Disney.

Disney allows me to grow, to evolve. There’s so much knowledge in Disney. So much to learn, and that opportunity I take every single time.

Disney allows me to practice mindfulness, to be present in the experience and enjoy the seconds vs. planning for the next.

Disney provides me awe moments, you know the moments that take your breath away? The moments that make me feel alive, vibrant, and connected to others and something bigger.

Disney may not be everyone’s favorite place in the world, but it’s mine.

So this Disney therapist mom wanted to share for just a moment the joy that Disney brings to me and my mental health. Feeling truly grateful.

Love, sincerely the Disney therapist mama â¤ï¸

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D

10 ways to live a more fulfilling healthier and happy life today:


So we all want to live a healthy and happy life right? Sometimes we don’t feel fulfilled in the everyday routine. We get stuck in the autopilot of it all. It gets exhausting, maybe even draining.

Let’s talk about 10 simple ways you can begin to implement today to live a more fulfilling healthier and happier life today.

  1. Practice gratitude

Choose each day to show up with a grateful heart. Even for the small things in your life, food you eat, roof over your head. This can all adjust the way you see and feel about your life and world.

  1. Choose to smile

There’s a ton of research that shows smiling helps us internally as well as externally. It helps us feel lighter and more at ease, plus it costs nothing. Try it out today.

  1. Mindfulness

Living a mindful life allows one to be present in all of your feelings and experiences, the more present we are the more regulated we become.

  1. Say no

Say no to people, places and things that don’t align to what truly makes your soul happy.

  1. Practice Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are essential. They are a perfect example of self- care. The healthier boundaries we choose the happier life we live.

  1. Exercise

Get moving, exercise increases endorphins that help us feel good. Get moving today.

  1. Surround yourself with people that love and truly care about you

When you surround yourself with a healthy team, you yourself begin to make healthier choices for you.

  1. Live for your moments

The moments that take your breathe away. Live and be those moments.

Manage Stress

Be conscious and aware of your stress. If it gets too high it’s time to implement something different.

  1. Choose goals that are realistic

Set goals that are realistic and achievable. Be kind to yourself. Choose compassion.

So today is your day, your day to begin living a happier and healthier life. Which of the 10 will you start to incorporate in your life? New Day Vitality is here to help.

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D

Let’s get moving, how to become unstuck in life.


So sometimes in life we’re stuck. Like seriously stuck. Have you felt this way? Have you ever felt stuck in a space, in a job, in an environment, in a relationship? If you answered yes to any of these questions this blog may be a healthy start on how to get moving and unstuck in your life.

Let go of the past

It’s hard, we know. We have all been there. But the longer you live in the past, the longer you will stay idle.

Explore your purpose.

Engage with your purpose, explore it. Does the life you live now engage with that purpose? If not it maybe time to shift.

Here’s some helpful questions to explore purpose.

What makes me happy and brings me joy?
What were my favorite things to do in my past?
What’s makes my soul happy now?
Who or what inspires me the most, and why is that?
What and who makes me feel good about myself?

Practice compassion

Practicing compassion can help one feel more present and unstuck in the routine. Do you practice self compassion? And if you do what does it look like? If you don’t, it’s probably time to start today.

Check out these 10 ways below directly from Tiny Buddha:

1. Transform your mindset.

Sadly, it’s often challenging to lift yourself up (particularly if you’re feeling really low or ashamed), but if you want to create compassion for yourself, you have to change your mindset.

For me, self-compassion started with changing my thoughts. I started focusing on the fact that my behaviorwas bad, not me. Once I started labeling behavior (instead of myself as whole), I was able to be kinder to myself and open up my mind to the possibility that I could make changes.

2. Speak (and think!) kindly about yourself.

Hand in hand with the first step is speaking and thinking kindly about yourself. Your words are incredibly powerful, and if you continuously tell yourself you’re unworthy, a mess, or unforgiveable, you’ll soon start to believe it.

I did this for a long time, calling myself things like “crazy” or “out of control,” but once I started changing my words, stopping myself every time I wanted to laugh off my behavior with a negative label, I began having more compassion for myself.

I was a person making bad choices, not a bad person. If you struggle with this step, imagine talking about yourself as you would talk about your best friend.

3. Forgive yourself for your mistakes.

Forgiveness is vital for self-compassion. We all make mistakes, but not all of us forgive ourselves for them. Depending on the mistake, this can be a very daunting task, but keep in mind that you cannot go back (no matter how badly you might want to), so the best thing to do is to choose forgiveness and forward motion.

Whenever I did something inappropriate, instead of shrugging it off or excusing my behavior, I started apologizing for it, both to others and to myself. Again, I focused on the fact that I wasn’t bad; it was my behavior that was.

4. Spend time doing things you truly enjoy.

If you’re struggling with shame, enjoying pleasurable activities can be seen as something you don’t deserve. But each and every one of us deserves to engage in joyful, uplifting, and exciting experiences.

Allowing yourself to experience true happiness”to take time from your life to do something you love”is an act of compassion.

When I found myself feeling ashamed for a mistake I’d made, I began making a conscious effort to understand what situation provoked that act and I strove to make choices that put me in more positive situations.

5. Strive to avoid judgments and assumptions.

Though assumptions and judgments are often based on experience or knowledge of some sort, it’s very hard to predict what will happen in life. When you judge yourself or make an assumption about what you will do in the future, you don’t give yourself an opportunity to choose a different path. Instead of limiting yourself, be open to all possibilities.

In my situation, I started assuming that I shouldn’t go to an event because I would inevitably cause a scene and have to leave. Little did I know that I’d eventually learn, with the help of therapy and self-compassion, to socialize sober. I had assumed that I would always be “wild,” but I’ve learned that you cannot know the future. Assumptions will only inhibit you.

6. Find common ground with others.

While self-compassion is about the way you care for yourself, one of the best ways to cultivate it is to create connections with others. When you open yourself up to sharing who you are with others, you’ll soon see that you’re not alone.

We all struggle to treat ourselves with kindness, and recognizing this can make the struggle more manageable.

At some point, I began admitting to friends and family that I had a problem. It was difficult to open up emotionally, but the more I did, the more I discovered that I wasn’t alone. Creating these stronger emotional ties made it so much easier to deal with my personal shame and to work toward more self-compassion.

7. Take care of your mind and your body.

One of the most compassionate things you can do for yourself is take care of your mind and body. Spend as much time as possible absorbing new information, and be sure to fill your mind and body with positive things (healthy food, good conversations, wisdom, etc.). Being mindful of what you consume and what you do with your energy is an important part of self-compassion.

Once I began doing this, I was able to recognize what did and didn’t make me feel good about myself. Admittedly, I didn’t always continue to seek out positive things (and still struggle to do so at times), but the awareness of what would and wouldn’t impact my mind and body positively gave me the opportunity to make more conscious, compassionate choices for myself.

8. Pay attention to where your passion lies.

Most of us are passionate about something. We have things that really matter to us ¾ a career, a hobby, our loved ones. Whatever it is that gets you excited, allow yourself to focus on that, and do what you can to spend more time enjoying it. Self-compassion means allowing yourself to be passionate, without shame or fear.

Around the time I started trying to get sober, I realized that my issues with alcohol were a reflection of deeper issues within my heart and mind. I started thinking more about my mindset and, as I explored this, I decided to start a blog to share what I found. It was at that time that my passion for self-discovery and my passion for writing merged, and Positively Present was born!

9. Realize it’s not all about you.

Rather than focusing on how we see ourselves, we often direct our attention to how we think others see us. It’s important not to do this for two reasons: (1) we don’t ever really know what others think and (2) more often than not, others aren’t thinking about you.

Letting go of external validation is a very compassionate choice.

It took me a long time to overcome this, particularly when it came to giving up drinking. For a long while, it felt like everyone was judging me, either because they thought I had a problem or, worse still, they themselves had a drinking problem and couldn’t understand why I was quitting.

As time passed, I discovered that most people didn’t care whether or not I drank”they just wanted me to be happy”and realizing this made it so much easier to do what was best for me.

10. Cultivate acceptance (even for your flaws).

Just because you accept something doesn’t mean that you like it. We all have attributes we don’t love, but the more you focus on accepting the things you cannot change, the more content you become with who you are.

One of the great challenges that came with my sobriety was realizing that I didn’t, in fact, like partying and barhopping as much as I’d claimed to. I’d made these things such a big part of my identity, and recognizing and accepting that they weren’t “me” was difficult (particularly because I had to overcome the notion that “introverted” was a negative characteristic).

I still struggle at times with being introverted”I often wish I could be social butterfly”but accepting my limitations and my true nature has been the greatest act of self-compassion. Doing so has allowed me to direct my energy and attention to the things I love about my life: my creativity, my writing, and the people who love me just as I am.

 

“Embracing these ten tips has helped me to cultivate more compassion for myself, and I’ve found that the more compassionate I am with myself”particularly when I’ve made a mistake or feel ashamed” the more compassionate I am with others as well.

The way you treat, think about, and talk to yourself isn’t just about you. It has a ripple effect that impacts all of your relationships and all of your choices, which is why it’s so important to choose self-compassion whenever possible. It changes your life and, in a greater sense, the world as well.

Believe in yourself

Believing in yourself. Do you believe in yourself? Have you ever asked yourself that question? If not maybe it’s time.

Get out of your comfort zone

Challenging yourself to get out of your comfort zone, with that being or feeling stuck you will feel a change in alignment.

Which ones will you start today above to feel unstuck? Which ones spoke to you?

If you’re in need for more support reach out to us today. We are here and honored to be apart of your journey.

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D

Self-love and cultivating it


Self- love

We all need it. We all want it. But how do we practice self-love?

Here’s some simple ways to begin practicing self-love today:

Live in the moment, each moment of every day.

Practice gratitude. Start and keep a gratitude journal today.

Embrace change. Accept the fact that we can’t control everything.

Self-care. Ensure you practice self-care daily.

Mindfulness, practicing mindfulness can flourish self-love in many effective ways.

Eat healthy, get enough sleep. Take care of you.

Surround yourself with people who you feel safe with. Who show you love and kindness that you deserve.

Let go of toxic relationships and environments. Cleanse yourself of all that doesn’t serve you.

Forgive yourself. Forgiveness is a key ingredient to self-love.

Mediate. Take time to be with you.

Be creative. Take up a new hobby and have fun with it.

Celebrate milestones, each milestone is growth and something to celebrate.

Follow your passion. Work towards your dreams.

Journal. Journal your feelings and emotions.

Love yourself. Love yourself, your true, vibrant authentic self. Perfectly imperfect

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D