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05
Oct
2023

Disney therapist mom here ☀️


 

A black and white image of the word justice.Yep, Disney mom proud and all pure love of everything Disney.

It’s interesting, often people will ask me as a therapist what do you get out of Disney? What’s the mental health piece? As I often refer to Disney as my very expensive self-care.

Truth is Disney brings me back to basic. Disney reminds of the simple joys that as we grow older we tend to miss, forget, or no longer notice.

Disney elicits the essence of mindfulness to see the child’s great big smile when in awe of the park. Or to notice the connection of families. The happiness individuals feel and it rays like sunshine on a warm day simply walking through the park.

Disney reminds me that life is complicated and sure this is accurate, yes, of course, but there’s also so much joy. So much pure, authentic joy and happiness, absolutely incredible.

Disney reminds me of when I was a child and the happiness that I felt every second in the park with my parents. Embracing my inner child gives me the opportunity to connect with some of the deepest layers of myself while at Disney.

Disney allows me to grow, to evolve. There’s so much knowledge in Disney. So much to learn, and that opportunity I take every single time.

Disney allows me to practice mindfulness, to be present in the experience and enjoy the seconds vs. planning for the next.

Disney provides me awe moments, you know the moments that take your breath away? The moments that make me feel alive, vibrant, and connected to others and something bigger.

Disney may not be everyone’s favorite place in the world, but it’s mine.

So this Disney therapist mom wanted to share for just a moment the joy that Disney brings to me and my mental health. Feeling truly grateful.

Love, sincerely the Disney therapist mama â¤ï¸

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella
21
Sep
2023

10 ways to live a more fulfilling healthier and happy life today:


 

So we all want to live a healthy and happy life right? Sometimes we don’t feel fulfilled in the everyday routine. We get stuck in the autopilot of it all. It gets exhausting, maybe even draining.

 

Let’s talk about 10 simple ways you can begin to implement today to live a more fulfilling healthier and happier life today.

  1. Practice gratitude

Choose each day to show up with a grateful heart. Even for the small things in your life, food you eat, roof over your head. This can all adjust the way you see and feel about your life and world.

  1. Choose to smile

There’s a ton of research that shows smiling helps us internally as well as externally. It helps us feel lighter and more at ease, plus it costs nothing. Try it out today.

  1.  Mindfulness

Living a mindful life allows one to be present in all of your feelings and experiences, the more present we are the more regulated we become.

  1.  Say no

Say no to people, places and things that don’t align to what truly makes your soul happy.

  1. Practice Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are essential. They are a perfect example of self- care. The healthier boundaries we choose the happier life we live.

  1. Exercise

Get moving, exercise increases endorphins that help us feel good. Get moving today.

  1. Surround yourself with people that love and truly care about you

When you surround yourself with a healthy team, you yourself begin to make healthier choices for you.

  1. Live for your moments

The moments that take your breathe away. Live and be those moments.

Manage Stress

Be conscious and aware of your stress. If it gets too high it’s time to implement something different.

  1. Choose goals that are realistic

Set goals that are realistic and achievable. Be kind to yourself. Choose compassion.

 

So today is your day, your day to begin living a happier and healthier life. Which of the 10 will you start to incorporate in your life? New Day Vitality is here to help.

 

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella
15
Jun
2023

How can we truly love ourselves while pregnant?


 

Trigger Warning: This post discusses pregnancy, body and hormonal shifts during pregnancy.  

 

 So, it”s great news, your pregnant. Your having and carrying a tiny human. You shared the news with family and friends, everyone is excited, everyone is happy for you.

 But your not. Hmmmm

 You question your response, you feel excited, but you also feel a world of emotions, mood swings and stress.

 It”s normal, this is all normal. I can”t say that enough, I can”t validate your experience enough.

 Society shares that we should only share and talk about the happy feelings, but what about the majority of the rest?

 

What about the mood swings? The hormonal shifts, the weight gain, the changes in everything. Let”s talk about that. Let”s validate that.

 Here”s some tips on ways you can validate and own your experience.

Connect with others, others whom are pregnant or have been.

 Share with those you feel safe with.

 Practice self love.

 Practice kindness.

 Practice patience.

 Practice healthy boundaries.

 Say no when you need to.

 Rest up.

 Eat and make sure you drink enough water.

 Stay active.

 Practice mindfulness.

 Join a support group.

 If you are not already seeing a therapist, reaching out to a local therapist may also be beneficial. New Day Vitality is honored to help, newdayvitalitytherapy.com

  

Create positive affirmations to support your journey and pregnancy. Here”s some examples:

From https://www.verywellfamily.com/positive-pregnancy-affirmations-2759738

 

I am

I believe

I feel

I know

My baby is

My body is open to

My body knows

My heart is

My labor is

My mind is open to

Birth is safe for my baby and me.

Contractions help to bring my baby to me.

I accept the help of others.

I am a good parent.

I am a strong person.

I know how to take care of myself in pregnancy.

I love my baby.

I will make the right decisions for my baby.

My baby feels my love.

My baby knows their true birthday.

My baby loves me.

My baby senses the peace and safety I feel.

My baby will be born at the perfect time.

My baby will find the perfect position for birth.

My baby’s head fits snugly into my pelvis.

My body knows how to give birth.

My body knows when to give birth.

My pregnant body is beautiful.

I accept my labor and birth.

I am surrounded by those who love, support, and respect me.

I know how to take care of my baby.

I trust my body.

 

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella
18
May
2023

How to elicit a routine?


 

Some of us love routine. Some of us fight them to no end. But in the end psychology confirms that routine is extremely beneficial for our mental health and wellness. Let’s open up the secret benefits of having a routine.

 

First let’s discuss,

What’s the definition of routine?

According to Merriam-Webster defines routine as, “a commonplace or repetitious character; or relating to, or being in accordance with established procedure routine business.”

 

So why do we need routines?

What’s the benefit of having a routine?

Here’s some benefits of having a routine:

-Having control of your life because you have a structure or routine

-Having a routine can make your day go easier, start your day off on a good foot

-Routine lowers stress

-Routine in hand helps you get a better nights rest

-Routines give you more time to yourself because you have more structure

-Health benefits of having a routine

-Elicits creativity

-Elicits productivity

-Routine increases happiness

-More time for the fun stuff

-Improve and better interpersonal relationships, more time for you makes for time for friends

-Better focus and concentration

-More productive at work and within your career

 

 

According to https://www.verywellmind.com/the-importance-of-keeping-a-routine-during-stressful-times-4802638

 

Here’s ways a routine can support your health:

“There are some things that you can make a part of your daily routine to help manage stress levels. These include:

  • Staying active and getting regular daily exercise
  • Making sure that you are well-rested
  • Eating healthy meals on a regular schedule
  • Setting realistic goals
  • Trying to stay positive
  • Preparing for challenges but not ruminating on things you can’t control
  • Staying in touch with friends and family members
  • Setting aside time for activities that you enjoy”

 

So now how do we create a routine?

 

According to Dr. Orma on https://www.headspace.com/articles/the-secret-benefit-of-routines-it-wont-surprise-you

 

“How to create a great routine”

Dr. Orma has some advice: “Sit down with a pad of paper and write out everything you do each day over the course of a week. See what you can cut or reduce. Then see what you can set as a normal routine, something you do at a set time each day or week. It has to work with your lifestyle. If you like to stay up late, getting up early as part of your routine may not work.” Once you have your routine, give it a little time and it’ll start to feel like second nature but if you realize something isn’t working, don’t be afraid to change it. Sports psychologist Dr. Jim Taylor, an expert on the power of routine for athletes in training, tells me: “It can be worthwhile to alter routines periodically to keep things fresh and stimulating.” This is another secret bonus of routines: once you’ve established one, the merest of tweaks can totally revitalize your day.”

 

So now that we have defined routine, now we understand the benefits of it and how to implement it. So the question is are you ready to begin? I encourage to start a routine and regimen today, your body and mental health will thank you.

Learn more about New Day Vitality.

 

 

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella
04
May
2023

How to let go/ release an ex


 

The break up. It’s not easy, it’s not comfortable, it hurts, it feels like it’s never ending and sometimes wanting to go back to our ex despite logically knowing the break up is what’s best for you. The emotional part of you still feels attached. Here’s steps on how to let go of your ex.

 

Cut off contact

It’s hard but it’s necessary, the answer is no you don’t need to be friends. You don’t need to text or call.

 

Delete them on social media

Delete them off all social media platforms. Following them and checking what they are up to is not healthy for your healing and release of your ex.

 

Let go of the fantasy

People often mourn the relationship they thought they could have. They remember all the good and forget about any of the negative. Remind yourself that the break up was necessary for your both if it was unhealthy and not working any longer.

 

Make peace with the past

Forgiveness. Forgiveness is not about letting your ex of the hook for there actions, it’s about your emotional freedom.

 

Know it’s ok to still love them

But know that love in itself is not what makes a healthy relationship. Love by itself is not enough to make a relationship work.

 

 

Love yourself more

Never expect someone else to treat you better then you treat yourself. You are the model for how you deserve to be treated. Love yourself more to know your worth and give yourself the gift of letting go of a relationship that no longer was working out.

 

Reach out to a therapist to support you on this journey.

New day vitality is honored to be apart of your journey. Click on the link below to connect with us.

Newdayvitalitytherapy.com

 

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella