06
Oct
2025

Holidays and Mental Health: Finding Balance Through the Seasons

 

The holidays are meant to bring joy, connection, and celebration—but for many people, they can also bring stress, anxiety, and loneliness. Whether it’s Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, New Year’s Eve, Valentine’s Day, or even Independence Day, each holiday can stir up unique emotions and mental health challenges. Understanding how to care for your mental well-being during these times can make the holidays more meaningful and less overwhelming.

The Pressure of Holiday Perfection

From picture-perfect meals to Instagram-worthy decorations, the pressure to make the holidays “perfect” can take a toll on mental health. Many people struggle with holiday stress, trying to balance family expectations, financial strain, travel, and social obligations. When you feel pressured to do it all, burnout is inevitable.

Tip: Give yourself permission to simplify. Focus on what truly matters—connection, gratitude, and rest. Redefining what a “perfect holiday” looks like can lift a huge emotional weight.

Managing Holiday Loneliness

Not everyone feels surrounded by love and connection during the holidays. For those who are grieving, recently divorced, single, or living far from family, the holidays can intensify feelings of loneliness and sadness. Social media can make this worse, as endless happy photos make it seem like everyone else is celebrating joyfully.

Tip: If you’re feeling isolated, reach out to others—friends, support groups, or community events. Volunteering during holidays like Thanksgiving or Christmas can help shift your focus outward and bring a sense of purpose and connection.

Family Dynamics and Emotional Boundaries

Holidays often bring families together, but that can also mean revisiting old tensions or difficult relationships. Conversations around the dinner table during Thanksgiving, Christmas, or Passover can sometimes lead to emotional stress or conflict.

Tip: Set clear boundaries for yourself. You don’t have to engage in every debate or relive every family issue. Taking breaks, going for walks, or practicing deep breathing can help you stay grounded and emotionally centered.

Financial Stress Around the Holidays

The commercial side of the holidays—buying gifts for Christmas, planning elaborate Valentine’s Day dinners, or booking summer vacations—can cause financial anxiety. Overspending often leads to guilt and stress that lingers long after the celebrations end.

Tip: Set a realistic budget and stick to it. Remember, meaningful gifts don’t have to be expensive. Sometimes the most heartfelt gestures—like handwritten notes or acts of service—mean the most.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

Winter holidays coincide with shorter days and less sunlight, which can trigger Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) in some individuals. This form of depression can make it harder to enjoy Christmas, New Year’s, or Hanukkah festivities.

Tip: Prioritize sunlight exposure during the day, stay physically active, and consider light therapy. Talking to a therapist can also help you develop coping strategies tailored to your needs.

Self-Care During Every Holiday Season

Regardless of the time of year—whether it’s Easter, Memorial Day, Halloween, or New Year’s Eve—your mental health deserves care and attention. Practicing self-care during the holidays isn’t selfish; it’s essential.

Try incorporating relaxation techniques such as meditation, journaling, and mindful breathing. Maintain your regular sleep schedule and eat nourishing foods to support your emotional balance. Saying “no” to activities that drain your energy is a healthy form of self-respect.

Seeking Support When You Need It

If holiday stress, anxiety, or depression feels overwhelming, reaching out for professional help can make all the difference. A licensed psychotherapist can help you navigate emotions, set healthy boundaries, and create personalized coping strategies. You don’t have to face holiday challenges alone—support is always available.

Final Thoughts

The holidays will always bring a mix of emotions—joy, nostalgia, love, and sometimes sadness. By prioritizing mental health during the holidays, setting realistic expectations, and practicing self-care, you can create more peaceful and fulfilling celebrations throughout the year. Remember, your well-being matters as much as any tradition or gathering.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
03
Oct
2025

The Mental Load of Motherhood: Why Moms Are Exhausted (and What to Do About It)

 

If you’re a mom, you know the feeling: you collapse into bed at night, but your brain doesn’t shut off. Did I sign that permission slip? What’s for dinner tomorrow? Did I sound too harsh when I told my toddler to “just put on the shoes already”?

It’s not just being tired—it’s carrying the mental load.

Motherhood is often described as the “best job in the world,” and yes, there are moments that feel like magic. But there’s another side moms rarely talk about openly: the invisible weight of keeping everyone’s world spinning while trying not to lose yourself in the process.

And here’s the truth: the mental health of moms matters just as much as their kids’ well-being.

The Hidden Mental Load Nobody Sees

The mental load is all the “behind the scenes” thinking, planning, and emotional labor moms take on. It’s remembering that your child hates the blue cup, knowing when the dog needs a vet visit, noticing you’re down to the last roll of toilet paper, and texting your teen a reminder to pack their cleats.

Most of it doesn’t show up on to-do lists, but it takes up real space in your brain. Over time, that constant hum of responsibility can lead to stress, irritability, burnout, and even anxiety or depression.

It’s not that moms can’t handle it. It’s that no human can carry the weight of everyone else’s life logistics and emotions without feeling the strain.

Why Moms Struggle to Talk About It

Here’s the kicker: moms often stay silent about their mental health struggles.

  • Guilt: “I should be grateful. Other moms have it harder.”
  • Comparison: Scrolling Instagram makes it seem like everyone else is handling motherhood effortlessly.
  • Fear of Judgment: Worrying people will think you’re “not a good mom” if you admit you’re struggling.

But pretending everything is fine doesn’t make the stress go away—it just isolates you more.

The Signs You Might Be Carrying Too Much

Every mom has tough days, but if you notice these patterns, it might be your mind waving a red flag:

  • You feel irritable or snappy over small things.
  • Your sleep is off (trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or waking up exhausted).
  • You can’t remember the last time you did something just for you.
  • You find yourself zoning out, doom-scrolling, or stress-snacking as a coping tool.
  • You secretly fantasize about “running away” just to get some quiet.

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human.

What Helps (And What Doesn’t)

Here’s where things get tricky. A bubble bath and a scented candle won’t fix the weight of invisible labor (though, hey, baths are lovely). What really makes a difference is support, balance, and compassion—for yourself and from others.

1. 

Name It Out Loud

Sometimes, just naming “the mental load” helps. Instead of saying, “I’m fine,” try telling a partner, friend, or therapist: “I’m overwhelmed because I’m carrying all the invisible tasks right now.” Naming it takes it from invisible to visible.

2. 

Stop Striving for Supermom

The Pinterest lunchboxes? Optional. The immaculate house? Not a requirement. You don’t have to earn your worth by doing everything. Sometimes, “good enough” is more than enough.

3. 

Ask (Clearly) for Help

Instead of saying, “I need more help around here,” try: “Can you take over making school lunches this week?” Specific requests work better than vague pleas.

4. 

Build Small Breaks into Your Day

Not a weekend getaway—five minutes. Step outside. Breathe. Stretch. Hide in the bathroom if you need to. Micro-moments of rest add up and signal to your nervous system that you’re safe.

5. 

Seek Professional Support if Needed

Therapy isn’t just for when things are falling apart. Talking to someone can help you untangle guilt, set boundaries, and find yourself again outside of motherhood.

A Gentle Reminder

Here’s something moms rarely hear: You are not selfish for needing care. You are a person, not just a parent.

When you nurture your mental health, you’re not only helping yourself—you’re modeling resilience, self-compassion, and boundaries for your kids. That’s powerful parenting.

So the next time you feel the weight of the mental load pressing down, pause. Remind yourself: it’s not because you’re weak. It’s because you’ve been strong for too long without enough support.

And you deserve better than surviving. You deserve to thrive.

Final Thought

Motherhood will always come with responsibilities, but it shouldn’t come with the expectation that moms sacrifice their mental health in the process. Talking about it—honestly, openly, without shame—is how we begin to change the story.

So if no one’s told you today: You’re doing enough. You are enough. And your mental health matters.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
25
Sep
2025

Integrating Holistic Practices for Total Wellness

Integrating Holistic Practices for Total Wellness

In today’s busy world, achieving true wellness often requires more than just traditional approaches like therapy or medication. Many people are discovering the benefits of holistic practices, which address not only the mind, but also the body and spirit. As a psychotherapist, I’ve seen how integrating holistic techniques alongside conventional mental health care can create a more balanced, resilient, and fulfilling life.

What Are Holistic Practices?

Holistic practices are approaches to wellness that treat the whole person—mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. Rather than focusing solely on symptoms, holistic practices encourage self-awareness, balance, and personal growth. Some common examples include:

  • Mindfulness and meditation – cultivating awareness and reducing stress
  • Reiki and energy healing – promoting relaxation and emotional release
  • Yoga and gentle movement – connecting body and mind
  • Breathwork – reducing anxiety and calming the nervous system
  • Nutrition and lifestyle adjustments – supporting overall well-being

By combining these practices with therapy, you can address the root causes of stress, anxiety, and emotional fatigue, rather than just managing symptoms.

Mental Health Benefits of Holistic Practices

Holistic approaches can have a profound impact on emotional and mental wellness. Some of the benefits include:

  1. Stress Reduction
    Mindfulness, meditation, and Reiki help lower cortisol levels, leaving you calmer and more focused.
  2. Emotional Balance
    Techniques like breathwork and energy healing can help release emotional tension, supporting resilience and a more positive outlook.
  3. Improved Sleep and Relaxation
    Regular holistic practices encourage relaxation, which can improve sleep quality and boost overall mental health.
  4. Enhanced Self-Awareness
    Mindful practices encourage reflection and self-discovery, helping you better understand your thoughts, behaviors, and emotional triggers.
  5. Stronger Mind-Body Connection
    Yoga, movement, and energy work support a healthy connection between your mental state and physical body, creating balance and harmony.

How to Integrate Holistic Practices Into Your Routine

You don’t need to make drastic changes to start experiencing the benefits. Here are some simple ways to incorporate holistic wellness into your life:

  • Start small – Begin with 5–10 minutes of meditation or breathwork daily.
  • Combine with therapy – Discuss holistic approaches with your therapist to ensure they complement your treatment plan.
  • Explore different practices – Try Reiki, yoga, or mindfulness and notice what resonates most.
  • Create a wellness space – Designate a quiet area in your home for meditation, journaling, or energy work.
  • Be consistent – Regular practice, even in small doses, produces the best results over time.

Final Thoughts

Holistic practices are not a replacement for therapy or medical care—they are a complementary approach that supports total wellness. By integrating techniques like Reiki, mindfulness, yoga, and breathwork, you can reduce stress, improve emotional balance, and enhance your overall quality of life.

Your journey toward total wellness is unique. Even small steps toward incorporating holistic practices can create meaningful shifts in your mental, emotional, and physical health. Whether you are looking to complement therapy or simply explore new ways to care for yourself, holistic wellness offers a path toward a more balanced, centered, and fulfilling life.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
25
Sep
2025

How Therapy Can Help You Cope with Anxiety

How Therapy Can Help You Cope with Anxiety

Anxiety is one of the most common mental health challenges today, affecting millions of people across all ages. While occasional worry is normal, persistent anxiety can interfere with work, relationships, and overall well-being. The good news is that therapy provides tools and strategies to manage anxiety effectively and reclaim a sense of calm and control.

Understanding Anxiety

Anxiety is more than just feeling stressed or nervous. It can manifest as:

  • Racing thoughts or constant worry
  • Physical symptoms like muscle tension, headaches, or rapid heartbeat
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Irritability or difficulty concentrating

When anxiety becomes chronic, it can create a cycle of stress and avoidance, making daily life feel overwhelming. Recognizing these signs is the first step toward managing them.

How Therapy Supports Anxiety Management

Therapy provides a safe, structured environment to explore the root causes of anxiety and develop coping strategies. Some ways therapy helps include:

1. 

Identifying Triggers

A therapist can help you recognize patterns and situations that trigger anxiety, whether they are external stressors, internal thought patterns, or past experiences.

2. 

Developing Coping Strategies

Through techniques like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness, and relaxation exercises, therapy teaches practical skills to reduce anxious thoughts and calm the nervous system.

3. 

Challenging Negative Thinking

Anxiety often involves distorted or catastrophic thinking. Therapy helps you identify and reframe these thoughts, promoting a more balanced perspective.

4. 

Building Emotional Resilience

Consistent therapy strengthens your ability to tolerate uncertainty, manage stress, and respond to challenges with confidence rather than fear.

5. 

Improving Relationships

Anxiety can strain personal and professional relationships. Therapy can enhance communication skills, assertiveness, and empathy, improving how you relate to others.

The Benefits of Early Intervention

Seeking therapy early can prevent anxiety from escalating into more severe mental health concerns. Even a few sessions can provide tools to manage symptoms effectively, improve coping mechanisms, and reduce the impact of anxiety on daily life.

Therapy is not a quick fix, but it is a long-term investment in your mental and emotional well-being. By addressing anxiety proactively, you can regain a sense of control, increase self-awareness, and experience greater peace in everyday life.

Tips for Maximizing Therapy for Anxiety

  • Be open and honest: Share your thoughts and feelings without judgment.
  • Practice techniques regularly: Skills learned in sessions are most effective when practiced consistently.
  • Set realistic goals: Small, incremental changes lead to lasting improvement.
  • Combine therapy with self-care: Adequate sleep, exercise, mindfulness, and balanced nutrition support overall mental health.

Final Thoughts

Anxiety doesn’t have to control your life. With therapy, you can develop tools, strategies, and self-awareness to manage anxious thoughts and emotions effectively. Whether you’re dealing with occasional stress or chronic anxiety, professional guidance can help you regain calm, confidence, and balance.

If anxiety is interfering with your daily life, consider reaching out to a licensed therapist. The first step toward relief is often the hardest—but it can also be the most transformative.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
25
Sep
2025

The Benefits of Distance Reiki for Mental and Emotional Wellness

 

In today’s fast-paced world, stress, anxiety, and emotional fatigue can take a toll on both body and mind. While there are many ways to support your mental health, one practice that has gained recognition for its gentle yet powerful effects is distance Reiki. As a holistic wellness approach, Reiki promotes balance and healing by channeling energy to the body, mind, and spirit—even when practitioner and recipient are not in the same room.

What Is Distance Reiki?

Reiki is an energy-based healing practice that originated in Japan. It involves a practitioner channeling universal life force energy to support relaxation, reduce stress, and encourage self-healing. Distance Reiki, sometimes called remote Reiki, allows the practitioner to send energy across time and space. This means you can experience its benefits from the comfort of your home, office, or any location that feels safe and quiet.

Many people wonder how it works if the practitioner isn’t physically present. While the process is subtle and non-invasive, studies and anecdotal experiences suggest that energy works beyond physical boundaries, helping to restore harmony to your body and mind.

Mental and Emotional Benefits of Distance Reiki

Distance Reiki can positively impact both your mental and emotional well-being. Some of the benefits include:

1. 

Stress Reduction

Sessions often produce a profound sense of calm. Many clients report feeling lighter, less anxious, and more centered after just one session.

2. 

Emotional Balance

Reiki helps release emotional blocks, old patterns, and negative energy. This can lead to improved mood, better emotional regulation, and a greater sense of inner peace.

3. 

Enhanced Clarity and Focus

By promoting relaxation and reducing mental clutter, distance Reiki can improve concentration and mental clarity. You may find yourself thinking more clearly and making decisions with ease.

4. 

Improved Sleep

Many people notice deeper, more restful sleep after sessions. This restorative effect supports overall mental health and resilience.

5. 

Support for Physical Well-Being

While Reiki is not a substitute for medical care, it can complement traditional treatments by reducing tension, promoting relaxation, and enhancing overall energy flow.

Why Distance Reiki Is Ideal for Busy Lives

One of the biggest advantages of distance Reiki is convenience. You don’t need to travel or rearrange your schedule to receive a session. Distance Reiki fits easily into modern life while providing the same benefits as in-person sessions. It’s particularly helpful for:

  • People with mobility challenges
  • Busy professionals seeking stress relief
  • Those who prefer a private, quiet space for healing

Even though the practitioner isn’t physically present, the energetic connection remains powerful and effective, offering a flexible and accessible path to wellness.

How to Prepare for a Distance Reiki Session

To get the most out of your session:

  • Find a quiet, comfortable space where you won’t be interrupted
  • Set an intention for what you want to release or receive
  • Relax, breathe deeply, and remain open to the process
  • Follow up with self-care practices like journaling, stretching, or meditation

Final Thoughts

Distance Reiki is more than just an alternative healing method—it’s a tool for cultivating balance, relaxation, and emotional resilience. By integrating this practice into your wellness routine, you can reduce stress, enhance clarity, and support both your mental and emotional well-being from anywhere in the world.

Whether you are new to Reiki or a seasoned practitioner, distance sessions offer a gentle, accessible way to reconnect with your inner peace and vitality.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
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