17
Nov
2022

Letting go


Let’s talk about letting go of a love one when a relationship ends. There’s no doubt that the end of a relationship is extremely painful. Break ups suck. There not fun, nor comfortable, even when your the one ending the relationship. Most of the time during or after a break up, individuals ask the question, how do I let go? It’s a tough one.

How do you let go after a long term relationship with a significant other?

Here’s some ways and helpful tips to start today:

Hold onto your boundaries firmly

Know you’re self-worth

Reconnect to other parts and people in your life

Disconnect from social media

Delete phone numbers and contact information of the person from your phone

Remind yourself why it didn’t work out

Create a positive mantra to counter the painful thoughts

Practice mindfulness

Do your own work on you

Be kind to yourself

Ask for help

Ask for support

Join a support group

Allow negative emotions to flow

Practice self- care

Discover the lesson

Elicit separation

Focus on you

Focus on empowering you

Focus on self acceptance

Start small

Keep a journal

Mediate

Be patient with yourself

Look forward

Let yourself grieve

Prepare for life after the break up

Recognize it’s time

Stop the blame game

Practice forgiveness

Master your emotions

Practice empathy

Learn to let go and move on

“The key to letting go of someone you love is facing what has happened, accepting that you can’t change it and then moving on. Once you’re able to move on and appreciate the growth that came from the relationship, better opportunities will present themselves. You will have successfully learned how to let go of someone you love and can begin writing your new story.” – Team Tony

https://youtu.be/79kpoGF8KWU

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
03
Nov
2022

Spiritual Love


For those who know and follow me; also know that I’m very spiritual and practice from a holistic background. Felt the pull to share this post of some of my favorite quotes on spirituality with my tribe this week.

Enjoy below friends

Enlighten your soul

“In order to save myself, I must destroy first the me I was told to be.”

-The Dreamer.

“When we awaken to our truth, we realize we are free.”

-Kristi Bowman.

“Awakening is not changing who you are but discarding who you are not.”

-Deepak Chopra.

“If every day is an awakening, you will never grow old. You will just keep growing.”

-Gail Sheehy.

“I think a spiritual journey is not so much a journey of discovery. It’s a journey of recovery. It’s a journey of uncovering your own inner nature. It’s already there.”

-Billy Corgan.

“The more peaceful your mind is, the easier it is to realize what spirituality is.”

-Remez Sasson.

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”

-E. Cummings.

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the now the primary focus of your life.”

-Eckhart Tolle.

“You must understand the whole of life, not just one little part of it.”

-Jiddu Krishnamurti.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

-Rumi.

“Our biological rhythms are the symphony of the cosmos, music embedded deep within us to which we dance, even when we can’t name the tune.”

-Deepak Chopra.

“Through your awakening, you awaken others.”

-Solara An Ra.

“You are a light that cannot darken. You are a soul that shines through. You are eternal amid the moment. You are awakening. You are love.”

-Craig Crippen.

https://youtu.be/hN-RsF17_Mk

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
20
Oct
2022

I’m proud of you


 

I wanna take moment to acknowledge all those who fight battles each and everyday that no one has any idea about. I want to acknowledge how hard you fight to show up. I want to acknowledge all the work you put into yourself and those around you. I want to acknowledge that your inspiring.

I’m proud of you.

Proud that your trying.
Proud that your working.
Proud that your smiling.
Proud that your crying.
Proud that your evolving.
Proud that your authentic.
Proud that your loving.
Proud that your real.
Proud that your showing kindness.
Proud that your loved.
Proud that your you.
Proud that your showing up.
So on the hard days please note that I see you. I admire you. I stand beside you.
To all those showing up even on the hardest days, your a true warrior.
https://youtu.be/hN-RsF17_Mk

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
06
Oct
2022

Healthy boundaries


 

Boundaries boundaries boundaries

Boundaries can be hard, sometimes even feel impossible but they are essential for our mental health, in fact they are normal. Here’s some awesome statements you can use to enforce or elicit a healthy boundary when needed and find it difficult to enforce.

  • I appreciate hearing your opinion, but I’m not willing to change my mind on this.
  • Can you explain your thoughts on this?
  • That has not been my experience.
  • I’m interested by what you’re saying, though I’m not sure how it would work.
  • I would like it if we could just agree to disagree.
  • I’m putting my needs first and you won’t make me feel guilty.
  • I don’t feel like I have a chance to voice my opinion here.
  • I feel like I shut down when you take over the conversation.
  • That may have been the case in your situation. But in this situation, mine is different.
  • I understand why you think that might work. But here’s why it won’t for me.
  • I hear how you feel. But now it’s time to talk about how I feel.
  • I feel uncomfortable when you bring this up in front of everyone. Next time, please just talk to me about it when we are alone.
  • I’m an adult and capable of making my own decisions
  • My reasons are personal, and I don’t have to explain them to you or anyone else.
  • I have my reasons and I don’t have to explain them.
  • I do not have to explain myself to you or anyone else, ever.
  • I prefer not to say or answer.
  • I’m confident in my decision.
  • I won’t allow you to use guilt to control or change my mind. I have made my decision.
  • My feelings are as equally important as yours, they matter.

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
22
Sep
2022

21 days of mantras


 

I am a firm believer of the growth that comes from positive affirmations and mantras. Here’s a list of some of my favorite mantras, 21 to be precise. I encourage you to use one each day for the next 21 days. Feel the mantra. Own the mantra. Live the mantra.

Happiness is within my grasp.

I will succeed in all I put my energy in today.

I’m courageous and stand up for myself.

I am strong. I am brave.

Even outside my comfort zone, I will be comfortable in my own skin.

It’s ok to feel vulnerable.

I choose not to criticize myself or others around me.

Today I choose me.

If I fail, I will fail forward.

My potential to succeed is limitless.

My body is my temple. My mind is my magic.

Difficult times are part of my journey and allow me to appreciate the good.

I will accept nothing but the best.

I will show up authentically today.

I forgive those who have hurt me.

I am constantly improving.

I am evolving each and everyday.

Success is in my future.

I can do this.

I will succeed today.

The success of today will carry to tomorrow.

https://youtu.be/k423h8lvj8I

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D