Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D

20
Apr
2022

We’re Hiring 

Join the New Day Vitality Tribe

We’re hiring!

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We are hiring! Holistic Private Group Practice, New Day Vitality Mental Health Counseling PLLC

Fully remote, make your own hours and amazing compensation!!

Licensed psychotherapist NYS job posting: LMHC

We are so excited to be able to bring on another clinician at New Day Vitality Mental Health Counseling PLLC practice at this time!!

To learn more about our practice, visit us at newdayvitalitytherapy.com

New day vitality is a holistic practice looking to hire a part time to full time psychotherapist (LMHC) to join the practice in Westchester NY. (All online at this time thus work from home, but must be licensed in NYS.) The candidate must be motivated, passionate, and collaborative to join our New Day family. We offer individual and couples therapy and incorporate a holistic approach along with other therapeutic approaches.

Clinicians currently employed in their own or another private practice should not be applying.

What we offer:
Competitive pay
Flexible scheduling
A healthy and fantastic team environment
And much more!!

Education:
• Master's (Required)
Experience:
• Psychotherapy: 1 year (Preferred)
License/Certification:
• Licensed in N.Y.S LMHC  (Required)
Work Location:
• Westchester NY
• Bronx NY
Work Remotely:
• Temporarily due to COVID-19 ongoing

To apply or for more information please reach out below, thank you, Namaste

Colette Lopane Capella
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Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
20
Apr
2022

The Empowerment Tribe


 

Some days are hard days, some days are full of magic. I asked some local moms to share some inspirational quotes that they want other moms in there tribe to hear for the hard days. Here’s the list below, I encourage each to read and use for those hard days.
I see you, I validate you, I stand by you,
Colette

For moms, from moms…

You got this.

This is just a moment it will pass.

You were made for this.

The days are long but the years are short.

Take a deep breath.

You are there everything.

Sometimes everything goes to s*it but then the pieces come back together.

You were born to be their mom.

Laugh through the chaos.

Successful mothers are not the ones who have never struggled, they are the ones that never gave up, despite the struggles.

Being a mom and seeing other moms just inspires me.

Call your husband and tell him he owes you.

Ride the waves.

Family is family.

Talk about it.

You are a very strong woman.

Your an inspiration.

It’s always a good day to have a good day.

You are the entire world.

You are my child and your safe.

Fake it till you feel ok again.

It’s all love, it’s all good, then laugh.

Focus on you for a second.

Walk away, throw water on your face and come back in as a new person.

It’s ok to laugh at the insanity.

My mom always told me, you are stronger then you believe.

Discover more of what you need.

Imagine if someone saw the craziest day in your house, imagine that and then laugh.

Talk about the way you feel.

It’s all worth it, even when it doesn’t feel that way.

Imagine what my mom went through; then call her.

It’s ok, it’s going to be ok.

You can do this.

Your child works on your energy, be cautious.

This child, this child is love.

I support you.

We are in this together.

Be kind.

There is no right way.

Call your best friend.

Turn the wounds into wisdom.

Forgive and show yourself love.

Take a break, do something nice for you.

Nothing is impossible.

Love and light.

Keep going.

I look up to you.

Your kids are your life, but you are there entire everything.

Love yourself, it’s that simple.

I’m learning more about myself in these hard moments.

Your strong then you think.

It’s ok to stop and ask for help. We all need it.

Life doesn’t come with a manual, everyday is something new to learn.

Being a mother is learning your strengths you didn’t know you had.

It gets easier.

You are brave.

Take sometime to enjoy the view even when it’s a wild one.

Put on the music and dance it out.

It’s a hard day, but only a day.

Push through.

Never give up.

This is the good days, believe it or not.

I love you.

 

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
16
Feb
2022

The People-Pleaser: A Trauma Survivor Mechanism


Some of us may be apt to help as much as possible. Some of us may know others who are consistently going out of their way to help others. In certain instances, this is a response to childhood trauma. When a person has grown up in an environment where their mental or physical well-being is threatened, people-pleasing may have been used as a survival skill in response to this threat. In childhood, this may have looked like not expressing yourself, your needs, or “talking back” to an authority figure to avoid conflict. This would be considered people-pleasing since the child is putting the needs of others ahead of their own.

As we become adults this trait can easily morph into people-pleasing in our interpersonal and occupational relationships. This can look like trouble saying “no” to tasks we truly do not want to take on. In the work environment, your boss may consistently go to you with overwhelming projects, and in relationships, you may feel pressure to help the other person as much as possible, even at the cost of your own wellness. Subconsciously this is done to avoid potentially experiencing a negative reaction from the other person. If you find yourself feeling uncomfortable or anxious when saying “yes” to someone, this may indicate a trauma-related response pattern. You may notice your body becoming tense, and experience resentment and psychological distress. Becoming self-aware and implementing boundaries is a step into un-programming this cycle. Consulting with a therapist is a great way to channel into the root of our trauma-related responses, and learning how to set healthy boundaries.

 

https://youtu.be/itZMM5gCboo

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
16
Feb
2022

New Day Vitality featured in podcast as expert guest on LMC Media Center


New Day Vitality featured in LMC podcast as an expert guest on Quarantine and couples.

Click here to take a listen.

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D
16
Feb
2022

Saying No


 

Let’s talk about saying no. For many saying no is impossible. If you know me, you know that I always say that saying is not selfish it’s self-care and essential to survive. Below is a list of some statements and ways to say no, remember it’s not selfish it’s self-care.

Do not feel guilt about saying no, you have to take care of yourself before you can anyone else, saying no is part of that recipe.

Honoring yourself is the most important thing.

Before saying no do this quick simple check to range your comfort level with saying yes and if your body and mind tells you the opposite, then you probably need to say no and use one of the statements below.

1. Check in with your body

2. Ask yourself what best serves my greater good

3. Take time before answering

4. Ask yourself the final question if I said no how does it serve me?

Helpful no statements:

Unfortunately not

I’m slammed

Not possible

Not this time

Not for me, thanks

It’s not my thing

I think I’ll pass.

Not today, thanks

I wish I could but…

I’m taking sometime

Maybe another time

I’m not interested

If only I could!

Not now, but another time

I’m honored, but I can’t

I wish I were able to

Damn! Not able to fit it in

I won’t be able to help

I’d love to – but can’t

I’d rather not, thanks

I wish I could make it work

I wish there were two of me

No thank you, but it sounds lovely

We appreciate the offer, however…

Unfortunately, it’s not a good time

No thanks, I won’t be able to make it

Thanks for thinking of me but I can’t

No thanks, I have another commitment

I appreciate your time, but no thank you

I’m not really into it, but thanks for asking!

 

https://youtu.be/zzNmOEJUg-s

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D