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It Was All a Dream

Motherhood, Healing, Entrepreneurship & Building a Life That Once Felt Impossible

“It was all a dream…”

For years, those words felt more like fantasy than reality.

Before the business. Before the building. Before the podcast, the practice, the motherhood milestones, the late-night strategy sessions, the tears in parking lots, the moments of breakthrough and exhaustion — there was simply a woman trying to survive while holding everyone else together.

And if I’m being completely honest, there were moments I didn’t think I could carry it all.

I am a mom of four.

I am a holistic psychotherapist.

I am the founder and director of New Day Vitality in Yorktown Heights.

I am a business owner.

I am now also the owner of a beautiful therapeutic space in Yorktown Heights where other therapists can grow their own dreams.

But before any of those titles, I was a woman with a vision nobody else could fully see yet.

That’s the thing about dreams.

They usually look impossible before they become real.

The Reality Behind “Having It All”

People love the phrase “having it all.”

But nobody really talks about what it costs.

The sleepless nights.

The guilt.

Missing parts of yourself while trying to build something meaningful.

Trying to pour into your children, your clients, your marriage, your purpose, your business — while secretly wondering when someone is finally going to pour into you.

As women, especially mothers, we are taught to carry everything quietly.

To keep smiling.

To keep functioning.

To keep producing.

To keep nurturing.

But behind closed doors, many women are overwhelmed, anxious, burned out, emotionally exhausted, and silently questioning if they’re failing at all of it.

I know because I’ve lived it.

There were days I sat in my office after sessions emotionally drained, then drove straight into mom mode — sports, homework, dinner, bedtime routines, laundry, phone calls, emails, bills, and somehow trying to remember who I even was underneath all the roles.

There were moments building New Day Vitality where fear felt louder than faith.

Could I really grow a successful holistic psychotherapy group practice in Yorktown Heights?

Could I be fully present for my children while also expanding professionally?

Could I build something meaningful without losing myself in the process?

And then came another dream.

Buying a building.

Even writing those words still feels surreal.

Not just for myself — but to create a healing space for other therapists. A place filled with warmth, peace, safety, intention, and magic. A place where healing happens not only for clients, but for clinicians too.

A space where people feel seen the second they walk through the door.

Women Are Allowed to Want More

Somewhere along the way, society convinced women that ambition and motherhood are supposed to compete with each other.

I disagree completely.

Being a mother made me more powerful.

Motherhood deepened my intuition.

It strengthened my resilience.

It expanded my empathy.

It sharpened my purpose.

My children became part of the reason I refused to quit.

I wanted them to grow up seeing a woman create something meaningful from nothing. I wanted them to witness courage in real time. Not perfection — courage.

There is a difference.

You do not need to be perfect to build a beautiful life.

You just need to keep going.

Yorktown Heights, Community & Building Something Bigger Than Yourself

One of the greatest blessings has been building New Day Vitality right here in Yorktown Heights, NY.

This community matters deeply to me.

There is something incredibly meaningful about creating a holistic psychotherapy practice in the same town where families are raising children, healing trauma, navigating anxiety, rebuilding relationships, and trying to find balance in a world that constantly demands more.

Mental health is no longer optional.

Healing is no longer optional.

Taking care of yourself is no longer optional.

As a holistic psychotherapist in Yorktown Heights, I’ve seen firsthand how many women are functioning in survival mode while appearing “fine” on the outside.

They are caretakers for everyone else while abandoning themselves.

And the truth is — burnout is not a badge of honor.

You cannot build a beautiful life while completely disconnected from your own nervous system, body, emotions, and needs.

You Can Be Soft and Successful

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned through entrepreneurship is this:

You do not have to become hard to become successful.

You can lead with heart.

You can lead with intuition.

You can build a business without abandoning your authenticity.

The world does not need more women pretending they are unaffected by life.

The world needs more women telling the truth.

The truth is:

Some days are beautiful.

Some days are messy.

Some days I feel unstoppable.

Some days I feel exhausted.

But I’ve learned to stop waiting for balance to magically appear and instead create moments of alignment.

A walk outside.

Therapy.

Prayer.

Stillness.

Boundaries.

Saying no.

Protecting my energy.

Laughing with my children.

Resting without guilt.

Self-care is not luxury.

It is survival.

The Dream Was Never Just About Money

Of course success matters.

Of course financial freedom matters.

But the dream was never just about money.

The dream was freedom.

The dream was impact.

The dream was creating a life that feels aligned instead of performative.

To wake up and know:

I built this.

I survived this.

I transformed this.

And if you’re reading this as a mother, entrepreneur, therapist, or woman carrying impossible amounts of pressure — I need you to know something:

Your dream is allowed to evolve.

You are allowed to outgrow old versions of yourself.

You are allowed to heal while building.

You are allowed to want peace and success.

You are allowed to take up space.

“It was all a dream” sounds different when you’re finally standing inside the life you once cried and prayed for.

And maybe the most beautiful part is this:

I’m still dreaming.

Colette

Founder & Director of New Day Vitality

Holistic Psychotherapy in Yorktown Heights NY

Posted by Colette Lopane-Capella, LMHC, D